Children desire discipline

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By Chaplain Mark O'Reilly 

  Picture in your mind if you will, your walking in the store perhaps Walmart, or any store really and you hear a child screaming and crying, as you walk it gets louder and louder your getting closer to the source. Now as you round the isle you find a young child in full melt down, and a parent who is just beside herself or himself not knowing what to do. The next step she/he leaves the cart and begins to make haste child in tow for the nearest exit.

   Sound familiar?

Or, how many of you have spanked or yelled at your child and then suddenly freaked out because you’re convinced you’ve ruined your child for life?

 You’re in good company. All parents struggle with the “D” word: discipline.

But why? Have you ever asked yourself? Because most parents hate discipline. You want to be the nice Parent. You want your kids to like you. Ever said “just w ...

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The F - Bomb

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By James Lehman, MSW

Swearing is everywhere in our culture. But as parents, you get to decide the culture of your home, and I recommend to all parents to establish a culture of respect and no swearing.

Establish this culture for the sake of a peaceful and respectful home. But also realize that children who know how to act respectfully and speak respectfully are better equipped to deal with the adult world than those who prefer to sound like thugs.

And make sure you understand the difference between swearing and verbal abuse. More about that below.

Know When to Stop the Show

The dialog below plays out in countless homes each night—we know because we hear from these parents all the time:

Parent: “Why didn’t you do your homework?”

Child: “I hate f—— school. I hate my f—— teacher.”

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Kids Who Ignore Consequences: 10 Things You Can Do

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By James Lehman, MSW


Does your child ignore every consequence you give him? James Lehman can help with 10 specific ways to make consequences work—even for the most resistant child.

When kids are faced with something unpleasant, they’ll often act like it doesn’t matter to them. When your child says, “I don’t care,” or seems unaffected when you give him a consequence, what he’s really saying is, “You can’t hurt me.”

That’s because receiving a consequence makes kids feel powerless. Their sense of self almost requires them to respond by shrugging and saying, “Whatever,” simply in order to feel in control again.

Focus on what you want your child to learn from the consequence—not whether or not he’s going to care.

Personally, I don’t think parents should wor ...

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