Kids, Blaming and Apologies: Everything after “But” is Bull

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By James Lehman, MSW

    You’ll often hear kids say, “I’m sorry, but…” and follow their apology with an excuse.

“I’m sorry, but you wouldn’t let me play my video games.”

“I’m sorry I kicked a hole in the wall, but you told me I couldn’t go outside.”

So, what your child is actually saying is:

“I’m sorry, but it was your fault.”

Or another way of saying that is:

  “I’m sorry, but it wasn’t my responsibility.”

Parents need to know this: if your child is in the habit of making excuses and not owning his mistakes, he’s not learning how to take responsibility for his actions. It also means he ...

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