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THREE KEY PRIORITIES TO MAKING MARRIAGE #1

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July 8, 2016

A friend of mine and I were recently talking about her priorities in life and where her marriage fell on the spectrum of importance. Similar to what I hear everyday, she said she has been extremely busy and just doesn’t have time for her marriage, but she wants it saved without putting in the work to save it. She has two young sons who she absolutely adores. She works full-time hours for part-time pay. She loves to exercise and eat well. She’s very involved in church activities. All of these are good things, but unfortunately her marriage has fallen well below all of these other things on her list. Healthy marriages have the trait of top priority. Every marriage needs certain things to make it a top priority - even when we don’t feel like putting it at the top. These three characteristics need t ...

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SHARE YOUR SCHEDULE- IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE

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One of the first questions in a counseling session is generally, “How was your week?”. More often than not, the response is, “Really busy!” Busyness, in itself, might not create difficult marriage situations, but not communicating about our busy schedules can be detrimental to the marriage. Being open and honest about our schedules can create an open path in our marriage that brings us closer to one another. A key to healthy communication about our schedules is what Willard Harley in His Needs, Her Needs calls, “Current Honesty”.

Current honesty can be practiced by revealing our planned schedules to our spouse before we do any activity away from them. Telling our spouse our dail ...

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STOP TRYING TO FIX YOUR SPOUSE

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One of the most common themes that I hear from married couples in my counseling office is the lack of good communication. Over time, I’ve learned that generally there are two types of poor communicators. Those that can only talk about themselves and those that are the “quick fixers”. Good communication includes looking into your spouse’s eyes and truly listen to what they are saying to you. The next step is to reflect back what they just said. For example a spouse might say something like “I’m really tired today.” Instead of responding with how tired you are from your long day or responding by telling her that she shouldn’t be so hard on herself, you could say “It sounds like you’ve had a really long day today. Maybe I could rub your feet while we sit on the couch and talk about it.” You need to let her open up and talk about what she wants to talk about BEFORE you get time to open up and talk about your day. This obviously works the ot ...

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