Category: Empowering Parents

Losing Your Temper with Your Child? 8 Steps to Help You Stay in Control By Dr. Joan Simeo Munson

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  Our kids have the uncanny ability to get under our skin and bring out the very worst in us. I can lose my temper and yell at my kids in a way that I would never do with a child who was not my own. Indeed, we often treat our loved ones the worst.

Here’s the truth: feeling angry is a fact of life and we can’t stop that. But, we can take steps to control how we react to our anger. We can get angry without losing our temper, and when we can do that, our parenting becomes much more effective.

  In other words, we will do a better job of getting our kids to behave appropriately if we can control our tempers. And, in the process, we will feel better too.

  Below are 8 steps you can begin to take today that will help you remain calm and parent effectively when anger overcomes you. You and your child will be better for it.

Step 1: Recognize Your Triggers

Understanding our triggers as adults i ...

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Parenting Advice: Explain Yourself Once and Move On

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By Darlene Beaulieu, Parent Coach

Here’s a piece of parenting advice I often find myself giving to the parents I coach:

Explain yourself once to your child and then move on.

You usually can’t end an argument—or make a child do something—by trying to make them understand and agree with you.

The fact is, they don’t understand you. They’re going to see things differently. Children and adults have different perspectives. Parents can spend a lot of time and energy trying to make a child accept their logic. It’s just not going to happen.

This is a tough pill to swallow for parents. We all feel like things would be easier if only our children understood why we want them to do certain things. But most kids are not interested in the ...

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The Secret Life of Bullies: Why They Do It—and How to Stop Them

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By James Lehman, MSW

Why do some kids turn to bullying? The answer is simple: it solves their social problems. After all, it’s easier to bully somebody than to work things out, manage your emotions, and learn to solve problems. Bullying is the easy way out and, sadly, some kids take it.

 

Look at men who beat or intimidate their wives and scream at their kids. They’ve never learned to be effective spouses or parents. Instead, they’re really just bullies. And the other people in those families live in fear—fear that they’re going to be yelled at, called names, or hit.

 

With bullies, nothing has to be worked out, because the bully always gets his way. The chain of command has been established by force, and the whole bully’s mindset becomes, “If you do what I say, then there will be peace around here.” And that’s not all, when the bully uses force, it’s the victims fault for not d ...

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