Is there any detail of your past life that you’re keeping from your spouse out of fear that if they found out, they would feel differently about you? What might happen if one day they were to find out about it? Most people who answer those questions I pose respond with, “Well, I hope they never find out and we won’t have to deal with it.” Does this sound like you? Are you keeping historical information from your spouse that could damage your relationship later?
I suggest you pull the curtain back and, “Reveal to your spouse any information about your personal history, particularly events that demonstrate personal weakness or failure.” This is what Willard Harley (His Needs, Her Needs) calls HISTORICAL HONESTY. It will, no doubt, be difficult to have this conversation (or multiple conversations) but you must have it in order for your marriage to have the freedom it needs to grow, develop, and mature. The fe ...Read more
- Josh Warren